Partly cloudy gave way to clear air at sunset. The last of the doors locked, alarm set, temperature slowly slid from the high of 84 degrees, 29 Celsius. The black vehicle interior hot, AC blasted, joined the parade homeward bound, headlights on, only a forty-five minute commute. Planned in my head Wednesday’s schedule, the customers to contact, the vendors to order, the staff to manage: did not know I would never return there to work. The driveway was dark. The house was dark. The change I had dreaded for 30 years was at hand. She was on the couch, alive, but in severe pain from a shattered left ankle seven hours prior. Her phone was out of reach. The change from full-time employee to full-time caretaker had begun.
red overtakes blue
sky rotates into black void
two days to new moon
Haibun Monday at d’Verse Poets prompts to write about changes and how they affect life.
My wife has had Type I diabetes for 45-years, on an insulin pump for 15-years and on nightly peritoneal dialysis for nearly two years. She spent three weeks in the hospital during the first ankle surgery, was released, fell at home the next week and broke the same ankle again. Another three weeks for surgery and complications followed by daily home nursing visits and medications over the next six months. She started walking in July and I started writing again. As changes go, it’s turned out to be a plus.
You break my heart, truly. It must have been the most terrifying experience, for both of you.
I, for one, am delighted you began writing again. Long may it remain so.
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Thank you. In a life filled with change, this has been the largest.
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Yes, of that I have no doubt. I think it brave of you to write about it. This kind of writing can leave you utterly drained.
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I feel better for putting it down on paper, err… screen? Doesn’t have that whole ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’ ring to it. One has to wonder if in 300 years the entire birthing pains of the internet will be terra incognito for historians. The digital diaries of billions of people lost to some future virus. Not much different than paper destroyed in fires of war I suppose.
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Hmmm, yeah, this whole screen thing…give me pen and paper any day of the week. The screen is a necessary evil for me. I prefer the tactile nature of pen and paper. Then again, I’m the kind of person that goes into a bookshop, just so I can smell it… 🙂
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Hmmm… one of those people.
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Yep! 😀
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My husband is diabetic (he’s not been offered a pump), so I know the changes that this condition can cause the entire family. Take care, Brian.
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Thank you Misky. I hope your husband remains well.
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Wow – a truly life changing moment. You conjure up details that take us there with you. I’m glad you write.
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Thank you Sarah. Glad you find my writing enjoyable.
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I feel like I know you now.
I wish this were fiction.
You are such a kick-ass writer.
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Thanks. Every second of every day this is not fiction.
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I’m so sorry, Brian. Deeply, deeply. I hurt for you.
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This is a very moving personal share. I hope the best for both of you. And your haiku is excellent, 2 days to a new moon. Blessings to you~
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Thank you Grace for your concern and comment.
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The day your world changed. This is a very emotional write and straight from the heart. Wishing you both better days!
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Thank you very much. Things are sometimes better for parts of days.
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I wish you and your wife the best, Brian. The best laid planning can’t foresee situations like this one. Thank you for sharing and I hope your writing can serve as cathartic during these difficult days.
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Thank you for your concern. This has been helpful to write.
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Brian, so difficult. Having been down the dialysis route myself and having worked as an RN in home care and hospice I have a sense of what you face on an hour-by-hour basis. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.
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Thank you very much Victoria. I have to check her blood sugar every morning at 1:30 after the second drain. Which is why I’m writing this comment now. 🙂
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What a change, and I so love the perspective you took, the last commute home and the beginning of new journey. Somehow we are a all blessed by your writing though.
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Thank you for your kind words. It was a change I had expected to find after my commute for decades. It was still a shock.
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Much love to you and your wife, Brian. You were brave to share this in your haibun. I hope your wife is feeling much better and I’m glad you’re writing again – it’s a great outlet for you and we get to read it!
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Thank you Kim. I don’t know if it was brave, it just happened that when reading the prompt, this change was foremost in my mind.
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I know what you mean. I posted a poem earlier today that happened in a similar way.
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It’s life Kim. Either you move forward or curl up and die.
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Oh this is so touching! My heart goes out to you Brian 😦
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Thank you. All is as well as can be.
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I imagine those 7 hours must have been a terrifying time for your wife. She is blessed to have a husband who is willing to be a full time caregiver.
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It’s part of marriage… in sickness and in health.
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absolutely!! Unfortunately, too few people take those vows seriously anymore.
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Oh Brian, the haiku is beautiful, but the whole experience just shatters my heart. I am diabetic, too, but Type II. I’ve avoided a lot of the suffering, but still. May you and your wife get through all of this and may life be calmer. You have beauty in your writing, and kept me on the edge of my chair. Thank you.
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Thank you for commenting. I’m glad you saw the beauty in my words.
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A truly personal write that I am privileged to read. Our spouses are our friends for life and we share our all with and for them. Prayers for you and yours – and the continuity of compassion within love.
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Thanks again Lillian.
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First off, your prose really kept me in suspense…however I was so saddened by the outcome. Your story is what a marriage is truly about….strength, compassion and loyalty during the worst of situations. Wishing your wife continued healing and smoother times ahead for both of you.
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Thank you Mish. Rarely is life so sharply delineated by before/after. It hasn’t been easy.
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Oh dear, you definitely take your commitments seriously. To go from full time worker to full time caretaker is no small change in lifestyle, but yes there is the advantage in that you now have time to write. It seems that life has its tradeoffs….but still oftentimes life is hard. My best to you on your difficult journey!
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Thank you Mary for your well wishes.
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Isn’t it interesting how even the worst of experiences can be turned to good? Sorry you both had to go through this; happy that it is, in balance, a good change. (I have diabetes, too. Quite a challenge, I realize.)
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It is a challenge. Diabetes is misunderstood, it’s much more than taking insulin. Thanks for commenting.
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Thank you for sharing your story of challenge and change. You and your wife will be in my prayers.
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Thank you very much for your prayers.
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